# Choose your pain and be willing to feel it.

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> Choose your pain and be willing to feel it. We cannot live without being willing to experience pain. The pain we avoid does not diminish; it merely shifts:

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# Choose your pain and be willing to feel it.

September 25, 2026Recent Articles

Choose your pain and be willing to feel it.

We cannot live without being willing to experience pain. The pain we avoid does not diminish; it merely shifts: when we escape into our careers, our families bleed; when we escape into our families, our careers do. After a while, both doors are forgotten, and we are left in between.

Feeling happy if it ends well, sad if it ends badly. It may end badly; that much of life is beyond our control. But if you have the peace of knowing "I did my best," that is what living fully means.

If you are hurting, you are hurting because you value your family. That pain is precious. The only way for it to go away is for you to become someone who does not care about their family. Would you take that deal?

A clip from the video "Bringing Meaning Back into Life" on my channel.

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